Have you ever thought about what it would be like for your husband if you died?  What would he be dealing with if he was planning for your funeral?  This is such a hard thing to think about, but it is necessary.  Death isn’t a comfortable topic, and we tend to avoid it (I know I do).  But, this seems crazy because we KNOW without a doubt, it will happen at some point.

My grandmother passed away a few years ago and I took something from that experience that changed how I looked at death.  She was a major planner (must be where I get it from!) and had everything pretty well mapped out at her passing.  She had been battling lung cancer and had known the end was coming.  This allowed her to have the time to plan which not everyone has.

At a time when we were grieving and trying to celebrate her memory, there were a million things to think about and plan.

• House – all of her possessions
• Funeral – service, casket, flowers, clothing, programs
• Obituary – photo, and write-up
• Will
• Finances (closing up credit cards, etc.), life insurance, death certificate

Thankfully, she had everything already taken care of, I mean, she had written her own obituary and picked out the picture she wanted to be used.  Because she had a terminal illness, she had the time to prepare.

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This got me thinking.  What if I died? What if I died unexpectedly?

My husband would be a wreck and completely overwhelmed by having to make decisions during that time.  It would feel impossible to him.

Along with trying to make decisions, he would be worrying about if he was doing what I would have wanted.

I decided after going through a “prepared” death with my grandmother, I wanted my husband to have everything prepared for me so he wouldn’t have to struggle with any of it.

Why should you have a prepared death?

It is such an emotional time.  It would be nearly impossible for your husband and family to be able to make decisions about casket type/color and flowers.  They are not going to care about what the flowers look like at the moment. So why leave them with the burden of having to make a bunch of decisions they won’t be able to process?

Once they do actually make the decisions about all the details of the funeral service, there will be some level of stress about making the “right” decision.  

Let’s flip the tables for a minute.  Do you know what flowers your husband would want?  Do you know what his favorite Bible verse is? What about burial vs. cremation?  Do you know where all the financial information is about his 401K and life insurance policies are?

If you have everything prepared for (as best you can), it will provide a guide for your husband to let him know he is doing the “right” thing by you.  

You may be one of those people that say, “I don’t really care about any of this stuff, what he chooses will be fine!”  But, what you need to think about is, “Is my husband okay with making all of these decisions? Will he feel comfortable deciding everything just knowing that I wouldn’t care?”

My bet is, when you ask him, he would choose for you to have everything pretty well laid out for him so he doesn’t have the pressure or worry of deciding everything.

Having a plan already designed upon your death will provide peace for both you and your husband.  You may not even have known it was something weighing on you, but once you have this done, you will feel lighter.  Use our Funeral Planning Checklist to organize and plan for your death.

Both you and your husband will know if something were to happen, your wishes will be followed and it won’t be putting any additional stress on your husband.  Instead, he can feel joyful he is following exactly what your wishes were.

Thinking and talking about death is never a fun thing to do.  My husband was totally weirded out when I brought up being prepared for death.

We both put off filling out our funeral services for a good year.  Now that we have done all of these things, we feel extremely peaceful about it.

By taking care of preparing for your death, you will take away the stress of having to make decisions.  You will allow your husband the opportunity to grieve instead of worrying about doing the “right” thing by you.

Give your relationship another level of peace by planning ahead for your funeral.  You won’t regret it.

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How to Plan Your Funeral Service:

The Church Service Format:

I’m not sure how every church works, but ours had forms available to actually design our own service.  What I mean by this is, we were able to pick out the music, the Bible passage of focus and our favorite verses (and what they meant to us).  There was also a section to write a message to our family to be shared that day.  The service form is then kept at the church in case of need.  This is awesome because we don’t have to worry about losing it.  Even our Pastor appreciates knowing he is speaking to what had wanted upon our death.

If you don’t have these forms in your church, talk to your Pastor to find out if this is something they could keep on file for you and if they have an outline of a service so you could personalize it to your liking.  It never hurts to ask!  You may be surprised to learn they have something like this available.

The Funeral Details:

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